Seeing the Bride before the wedding is an old very important tradition to follow for many brides. But when did this all begin? The superstition dates back to the time of arranged marriages, when marriages were considered business deals, instead something romantic to declare your love. Many cultures believed that if the couple saw each other before the ceremony, it would give the bride or groom a chance to change their minds about the wedding. Times have changed though; the couple now chooses whom they marry. They’ve seen each other before, dated, and know each other deeply. So why not see each other before the ceremony!
Still not sure about what is best for your wedding? Take a look at the pros and cons of having a first look with your groom.
Enjoy few minutes together alone: Remember this day is about you two! There will be very little one-on-one time for each other, by the time you talk to all the guests. You end up being pulled left and right, so it might be nice to have a few minutes together alone before all the wedding day madness. You’re about to marry someone in front of potentially hundreds of other people, eyes are going to be on you all day/night. Seeing each other before the ceremony might help calm some of those wedding day jitters.
Photographs: Having your hair and makeup fresh is a nice touch to wedding photographs. You won’t have to worry about makeup touchups after the ceremony. It also gives the photographer another intimate moment to capture the grooms’ first look at his future wife. The photographer can also capture all of the bridal party and family photos. Most photographers actually prefer taking pictures before the ceremony.
Enjoy Cocktail Hour/Reception: Traditionally the photos are taken after the ceremony, which means the bride and groom are on a huge time crunch. Often times, the bride and groom do not get to enjoy their cocktail hour and reception because they spend most of the time mingling with guests. Save time by taking pictures before the ceremony and enjoy both the cocktail hour and reception.
Superstition: The bride/groom seeing each other before the wedding is a HUGE superstition. It is considered “bad luck” to see each other before the wedding! If you are superstitious, you might not want to break from typical tradition.
Breaking the tradition: The first look before the wedding is a modern trend right now; it is different and not common. Some brides may want the wedding to be traditional and follow all the common rules.
Disappoint guests/family expectations: Some guests want to view the groom’s first look and see his reaction, so it might disappoint some guests or family members when the groom has already seen the bride.
Perhaps you still aren’t sure what to do, but would like to experience the best of both. Consider doing something in the middle like blindfolding the groom or having each of you stand on one side of the door, but holding hands for a quick prayer together. There are many pros and cons to think about when considering seeing each other before the wedding, but ultimately it is up to you!
Whatever you choose for your wedding will be perfect, so smile and have a good time!