You’ve poured months into planning, you’ve designed, styled, met, tasted, swooned, loved and even cried a little along the way. You’ve asked questions, you’ve read books, you’ve pinned each picture that you know your day will turn out to be perfectly like. Most importantly, you have the man of your dreams with you and are on cloud nine to get to start this new chapter of your lives. Everyone has given you advice. Even if it isn’t solicited. However, there are always a few small events that need some extra detailing. Follow these small hints to help your big day run smoother.
The bridal handoff at the altar.
If your dad is walking you down the aisle, he will be the one handing you off to your groom. You will be on his left arm, and he will stand between the two of you until asked, “Who gives this woman to be married.” Decide with your parents what response you want recited. Answers can be: “I do” “Her mother and I do” “We do” “Her family and I do”. Then, have your dad shake your groom’s hand, place your right hand in your groom’s left and kiss you on the cheek before going to sit. If you have a veil, he might lift it before sitting.
Who has the rings during the ceremony?
The tradition of the ring bearer actually holding the rings tied to the pillow has withered away. He may be there with a pillow, or a sign, or just as moral support, but you may have the best man or maid/matron of honor hold on to the rings during the ceremony to insure they are secured. Often it is easier if the best man holds both since he will have pockets. Make sure the responsible party has the rings in their possession at least 30 minutes prior to the ceremony starting so there is no question of panic when the rings are called for. Wear your engagement ring on your right hand and switch it back after the ceremony, wearing your wedding band closest to your heart.
How do you fold a pocket square?
Pocket squares get tricky and there are multiple ways to execute this fold. We like to follow these easy steps from www.theepochtimes.com to get one sleek look. Truly, as long as all of the gentlemen are folded the same way, you are on the right track.
How should the groomsmen hold their hands at the altar?
We’ve all seen the awkward moments where the guys realize they don’t know what to do with their hands and start looking at each other and getting more and more nervous for no reason. Decide during rehearsal how you want the groomsmen to stand and how you want their hands to be placed. We are always fans of right over left for all of the Aggies at the front.
Bridal party transportation.
You have probably thought a lot about pre-ceremony and what time everyone will arrive, how they will get there, and where everyone will dress. You also need to consider after the ceremony. You and your groom will most likely be traveling together in arranged transportation, but if that doesn’t include your bridal party, make sure they will not be left to fend for themselves to make it to the reception. If you have made transportation arrangements for them to get to the ceremony, carry that through to get to the reception. If everyone has traveled together, brought their own vehicle, or plans on going to and from with dates, that is fine, just make sure they are aware of pictures before or after.
Visiting the Little Girls’ Room in your dress.
Getting in and out of that dress is no joke! You have more layers than usual, there could be buttons top to bottom, some may cause you to take it completely off, some may cause you to hold it over your head, some may create bit more of a shimmy to get in and out of, but any way you look at it, you will probably want to practice using the loo to be safe. You don’t want to chance dipping your dress in the water, or dragging it on the floor! After all, you have so many great bridesmaids that are there to help you from start to finish, and this will create some great laughs.
Letting guests know you appreciate them.
You can have a traditional receiving line where you greet guests leaving the church, entering the reception or buffet, or you can make a point to go to each table and talk to guests as they are seated. During the toasting you and your groom can give a thank you to your guests expressing your sentiments and appreciation for those spending the day with you. Take the time to introduce one another to those guests you may not know. It will mean a lot to all involved.
Cutting the cake.
When do you cut the cake, how do you cut the cake? You will generally cut the cake after dinner and before the dancing will begin. The order may vary a bit, but you will want to cut the cake somewhat close to dinner so that guests who are interested in cake but might need to exit early will be able. Your Emcee will make an announcement of your cake cutting location, meet your new hubby at the cake tables, and make sure there is a plate, two forks that may or may not be used during the process, and two napkins ready for you. Your photographer will position you for the optimal photos, and ask you to most likely take a kissing photo once you have fed one another. Place both of your hands on the cake knife and cut a small sliver out of the bottom layer of the cake. Once you have the cake on the plate you can use your fork or fingers and feed the other the bite of cake. Remember to be nice, or face the alternative!
The final exit and travel plans thereafter.
If you are leaving immediately for your honeymoon, think about what you will need to do with your dress. If you need to leave your dress in the hands of someone responsible, bring something fun to change into for your last dance and make your exit in that. That way you don’t get to the hotel and realize you are catching a plane and can’t leave your wedding dress in a hotel for a week until you get back. Make your going away piece a fun representation of your personality, wedding or honeymoon.