Think back to being a kid. Mom and dad have forced you into a poofy, itchy, cake shaped, dress, the shoes you’re wearing are slightly too tight, and your hair has been pulled back in a horrific manner complemented by an army of bobby pins. You’re tired, hungry, uncomfortable, and unfortunately, it’s only been 30 minutes.
In the hustle and bustle of wedding planning, it is easy to neglect our tiny guests. If you are expecting little ones at your wedding, let them know that they are loved by planning them into your big day. There are three main categories of children at weddings: children belonging to the bride and the groom, kid relatives of the bride and groom, and children belonging to the guests of the bride and groom.
Whether you’re a bride with kids, a bride gaining step-kids, or simply a bride with special children in her life, there are many ways for you to show the little ones in your life just how much you love them.
For Brides and Grooms with Children
- Write them into your vows!
Writing a set of vows to the children of your new spouse is a great way to let your new kids know that you are as committed to them as you are to their mom/dad. As a bride or groom, you are gaining more than a spouse, you’re gaining a family. The promises that you make to your spouse, and to their children, on your wedding day are promises that they can hold onto for a lifetime.
- Give them a role in your ceremony!
Whether your son walks you down the aisle, or your spouse’s daughter carries your train, incorporating the children of both the bride and the groom gives them a sense of purpose on the wedding day. Their lives are changing too, and having a role in the ceremony allows them to feel meaningful and invested.
- Have them cut in on your first dance!
First dances are adorable. Allowing your kids to dance with their new parent redefines the traditional mother-son and daddy-daughter dances.
For Brides and Grooms with Child Relatives
- Assign them a task!
Aside from ring bearers and flower girls, there are multitudes of roles that children can play on the wedding day. Kids, depending on age, can act as ushers, hostesses, cake servers, bride attendants, etc. Oftentimes kids are honored simply by being asked to do more than attend.
- Make them a survival bag for their time at the wedding!
A full day of “wedding-ing” is hard for many adults. Hours of prep, lengthy ceremonies, and a seemingly never-ending reception, are sure-fire ways to make any kid lose it. If you know that there will be kids attending your wedding for its full duration, such the children of members of your wedding party, you can prepare mini-survival bags to ensure their sanity. These bags can include coloring sheets, crayons, bubbles, games, etc.
For Brides and Grooms Expecting Many Little Guests:
- Provide a space for them to play!
If you know that there will be a lot of kids at your wedding, one way that you can plan for them is by providing a place for them to play. Having a table or room set up with coloring sheets, Legos, and games is a great way to ensure that bored kids stay occupied and have fun!
- Pass out clipboards with activity sheets and colored pencils!
Parents will adore you for having these handy, fun, resources available for their kidos. You can include MadLibs, coloring sheets, or brain games!