Travis Rollins of Downtown Event Services chimes in on the question of how to fine tune your wedding music:
Planning your wedding is fun! Some aspects are simply more fun than others, like the delight of the cake tasting versus the tedium of sticking 175 stamps on R.S.V.P. cards!
Choosing your music should be approached with the same excitement and enthusiasm that you put into your choice of cake. Music is the groundwork for the celebration of your wedding ceremony when you want your guests to let loose and party!
Try not to be too nervous about selecting the “spotlight songs”—those played during a key event such as the First Dance, Garter Toss, or Exit. Although these are moments when everyone is focusing on you, there is no need to stress.
Your professional wedding DJ has an incredible wealth of musical information, with selections that are appropriate for each particular moment. The DJ will be happy to help you with choices; but first, here’s how to help your DJ:
Start the musical selection process with your dinner and dancing music. Build a bank of all-purpose or general-use songs, along with the essential DO NOT PLAY list. This helps your DJ to get to know you and your tastes, and also better able to help you make the spotlight selections. For example, My Wish by Rascal Flatts is a very popular Mother/Son Dance choice, but if your bank of general selections has established your lack of interest in country music, your DJ should be able to recommend more suitable alternatives for your wedding.
This is your wedding, your show, your shining moment! Choose what matters to you and your family or friends rather than something that may fit lyrically, but doesn’t really fit your life experience. Be bold. Be thoughtful. If you have a song from days-gone-by that clicks with your bridesmaids for the bouquet toss, go with it. It will be more meaningful for all of you. Single Ladies is only a good choice if it means something to you and your friends.
Still having trouble choosing? Your DJ can definitely offer suggestions for your spotlight songs. However, most DJs will try to avoid picking the Big Three songs for you (The First Dance, The Father/Daughter Dance, and The Mother/Son Dance). Only the bride and groom truly know what is special for them.
The First Dance is often a matter of being unable to decide between two or three significant songs. In this scenario, we recommend choosing one for the first dance and one for the last dance, to be able showcase both songs.
The parent dances often are easily resolved by simply asking your parents what they’d like. Parents may have deep memories of music that is meaningful to them in your life as a child. Ask your parents first, and try not to be surprised when you get a quick answer!
Two personal all-time favorite choices for the father/daughter dance have been Kermit the Frog singing Rainbow Connection and N*SYNC’s Bye Bye Bye, recalling a time the father and bride danced together during a father/daughter halftime drill team routine. Fun! Memorable! Fearless! Be creative so your wedding doesn’t sound like every other one you have attended.
Here is Travis’ list of overplayed songs that guests may find a bit stale:
Marry You – Bruno Mars
Happy – Pharrell Williams
Signed, Sealed, Delivered – Stevie Wonder
Single Ladies – Beyoncé
Girls Just Want to Have Fun – Cyndi Lauper
Dear Future Husband – Meghan Trainor
Another One Bites the Dust – Queen
Theme from Mission: Impossible – Lalo Schifrin
Sugar – Maroon 5
Sugar, Sugar – The Archies
I Loved Her First – Heartland
My Girl – Temptations
How Sweet It Is (To Be Loved By You) – James Taylor, Marvin Gaye, et al.
I Hope You Dance – Lee Ann Womack
My Wish – Rascal Flatts
Great music makes for a great party. Get creative, have fun with your music, and use these helpful tips to guide you while fine tuning your wedding tunes!