I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, ‘always the bridesmaid, never the bride’. Well, that saying is true, to an extent. In the last year, I’ve attended six weddings. At this point, some may call me a professional wedding guest, and here are some helpful tips on how YOU can be one, too.” -Karina Farias
- I cannot stress the importance of this enough. The couple needs enough time to know whether you’re showing up or not. Don’t leave them guessing. If you surprise them and you end up with the fish and brussel sprouts, that’s your own fault. DO IT FOR THE FOOD.
- If the invitation is only addressed to you, don’t ask if you can bring a date. The couple is only accounting for a certain number of guests. Don’t put them in an awkward position. You can have some of the most fun at weddings on your own. Trust me; it makes for the perfect people-watching opportunity.
- Try and buy your gift(s) early. The least expensive gifts are usually the ones to go first off the registry. When shopping for gifts, consider your relationship with the couple, budget, and costs to attend the wedding. Weddings can get expensive, even for guests.
- Don’t buy something not on the registry. You may think you know what they want, but you don’t.
- If you didn’t have time to get the couple a gift, money is always welcome. Think about it. Who’s going to turn down a card with $50 in it?! NO ONE.
- If the invitation states the attire will be “semi-formal” ask the bride and groom their definition of it. You don’t want to show up in an elegant dress when the rest of the crowd is in summer dresses.
Show up on time!
- If the ceremony starts at 5 p.m. try and be there by 4:50 p.m. at the latest. It’s always better to be there 10 minutes early out of respect for the couple. You don’t want to disturb the quiet ceremony with your late entrance.
- Many couples hire a professional photographer, and would much rather you not have your cell phones up throughout the ceremony. If they ask you not to take photos, respect their wishes.
- If the couple chooses to have a seating chart for the ceremony and reception, follow it. They spend countless hours trying to figure out who won’t start fights at the reception.
- If you chose the chicken instead of the steak and regret it, too bad. The bride and groom only accounted for certain amounts of each.
- If it’s a buffet, start off with one trip to the buffet. Don’t get more food than you’ll eat. Also, don’t make another trip to the buffet unless you’re told you can. Remember, you have to keep room for cake.
- If the couple has an open bar, that doesn’t mean “all you can drink.” You don’t want to be the cause of the wedding running out of tequila.
- The couple may choose to have a dry wedding. If they do, respect their wishes. Don’t be like Uncle Eddie who sneaks in ten flasks, and can barely stand the rest of the night.
- If you’re a dancer, dance your heart out! You also don’t want to be calling attention to yourself. Try and blend in on the dance floor.
- Participate in the events at the wedding. When the bride throws the bouquet, either participate or excuse yourself beforehand…or switch your ring to your left ring finger and pretend you’re married.
- Make the most out of the weddings you attend. Supporting your friends on their new journey can be one of the best gifts you give. Participation and enjoyment will be noticed.
Follow these tips, and you’ll be a wedding beast!